Common Sense

Today we morn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as: Knowing when to come in out of the rain; Why the early bird gets the worm; Life isn't always fair; and maybe it was my fault. Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies, don't spend more than you can earn and adults, not children, are in charge. His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition. Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children. It declined even further when schools where required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion. Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims. Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault. Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement. Common sense was preceded in death by his parents Truth and Trust, by his wife Discretion, his daughter Responsibility, and his son Reason. He is survived by his step brothers; I Know My Rights, I Want It Now, Someone Else Is To Blame, and I'm A Victim. Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone. If you still remember him, Pass this on!!! If not, do nothing.

I write this to open the eyes of those that walk in darkness. If you know right then you should know that just cause something will make your life monetarily better, or seem not so bad, or even put the blame somewhere else does not make it right.

Right AIN'T never Wronged NO ON

It always seems that when people do something wrong they what to push the blame off on others. The one thing that I realized was that no one can make another grown person do anything. All final decisions are on the person who made it. The worse part is that when they push the blame off you have done what they did even if it is not true to try and make what they did seem worse. First two wrongs don't make a right. Second just cause you believe it don't make it true. Third if you want to know something be an adult about it and stop playing games like a kid. Til next time.

When it right to snoop

My original thoughts was that snooping through your significant other stuff was wrong either you trust them or you don't. Opinions have the right to change and I have changed mine. Through the last couple of months have been through some pretty crazy things and have come to find that although I asked the right questions I have not been receiving the right answers. So being the curious being that I am I got a chance and I took it. What I found really should have been a shock yet it wasn't because I have been accused of the things that I found. Like going through his stuff (of course this time I was for the first time). He had been all through my stuff writing down numbers and taking papers that for some reason he must thought where important enough to collect info but not be missed.

Going through that was really crazy so one night he came home completely loaded and left his phone unlocked. So I went through and checked who he had been calling . That was nothing but a list of hoes that he called till he got home. Seeing all of this made me interested in checking his text messages. After checking that I found out that although he came home to me he had been cheating with like 5 other women one of them being his cousin.

So when people say snooping is wrong I say that they can switch experience with me anytime cause I use to feel the same way and would love to keep that out look yet I know that it is not a practical outlook. Although you would think that someone you love so much will be honest with you they are not always and it is might not be to hurt you. I really think that he thought that he was protecting my feelings yet he knows that if and when I found out it was not going to be okay. I must admit I still love him yet I know that things will never be the same.

Self Helpers

Many people will try to tell you what is best for you and they will not look at wheather or not you will need help. It is bad enough that I know that I need to do somethings yet can't cause I can't afford it. Yet they look out for themselves and ask for my help and I do when I can. The worse part is that in helping them I put my self in a place to not help my self and the worst part is it sucks. I wish I could just look out for me and do what ever and have someone there for me. It is time to take back I have to put my needs first.

Well I write this because there are plenty of people telling me that I need to get a better car. One being my youngest son's farther; who rarely pays his child support and when he does it is maybe a third of what is owed for the month. So he goes and gets a new SUV and tells me I need something better than my car. Even worse I won't say who yet they say the same thing with and added it needs to be a 2005 or better. So I said give me four thousand to put down with my trade in. The response was that I need to and that my payments won't be that high. How hilarious is this?

If you are willing to offer your two cents you should be willing to help I have helped you both many of times and I ask for something simple and cold shoulder.

My lesson is to learn to do for myself. I will not help anyone any more. Y'all can't help me so I have to do for me. Not made just taking it with a grain of salt.

Happiness

If you love some one you want to help them, be around them, share the up and downs of life with them. So why would you stay out all night and then think this person's feelings have not changed toward you the next day. I know many people who bring the same problem to me I have lived it personally. As a person of full reason I say there is nothing that you can do to change the other person. The only thing that you can do is except that they are who they are or leave them.

My choice was to leave because I know that I deserve more than passing hellos and goodbyes. To me there was more than just the physical. There was a connection but sometimes that is not enough. If my significant other could not find the time of day for me then it was not worth it for me. My happiness counts. Functional is not what they make it out to be.

To find your happiness look to your self and if it don't make sense then keep it moving.

Postivity

When you think positive and believe that positive things are going to happen you can change the out look of your whole day. Before I went to sleep last night I told myself that I would wake up refreshed and have a completely great day. Well I woke up this morning I was wide awake and literally had a bounce in my step. Waking up a 2:30 a.m. is hard but going to sleep with such a great outlook it just made the day better. Today people where actually looking and wondering what was the change. Most people wouldn't believe it was just a thought I put in my own mind.

I say try it before you go to sleep and during the day say positive affirmations things that you want to happen and see if it works for you. Set your mind in the tone that you will have a great day promise you the only thing you can't control is other people but if you have that positive out look you will deal with the problems better.

People and Communication

Yes I have been gone for a long time and miss that I haven't been able to find the time to express some of my thoughts. Well now I'm back and the best part of it is I have plenty to write about.

One of my good friends sent me a text and it really made me think. It is entitled " It's Okay to Quit ( UNCLASSIFIED)". The jest of it was mostly saying that we as a people spend too much time worrying about every one's business and not enough time on our own. Now you may ask why is it tittled the way it is. This is some thing that most people need to look at my favorite part:
"5. Quit gossiping about other people! Minding our own business should be a full time job.
6.Quit blaming each other for things that in the big picture aren't going to matter three weeks from now! Talk solutions....and then implement them!
10. Quit letting family member rope you into the drama! Start telling them you don't want to hear it! Quit spreading the drama! Quit calling other relatives and telling them about your cousin , uncle, or aunt! Go back to #5 minding your own business should be enough to keep you busy!"

So if you are reading this then you should understand I was one of those people that called myself helping out. Yet I should have been Quitting. Now that I have I have more time for the the things that I love and the things that I want to spend my time on. Think about it and see if it works for you.