Our Children

This hits me close to my heart for it seems that our children are learning to be disrespectful; yet they are being supported by people who showed us the rights and wrongs of life. How is that a eighteen year old can live with her grandmother and run the household? My oldest god daughter use to be one of the sweetest souls, with a very bright future. Then a turn for the worse happen it seemed as though the grandmother wants to make up for the wrong she did against the parents. My best friends let her in and all the drama began. I believe that she has put in the god daughters head that the parents had more children because she was not good enough. Nothing could be further from the truth for they fought to have her as a part of their life and gave her more than she could ever ask for or truely need. To me it seems as though the grandmother just wanted to drive a wedge in the family cause she could no longer have total control, and my god daughter was starting to come into her own.

Although the grandmother looks really bad she was not alone. My god daughter got a boyfriend and she really started to conform to him and his ways. I wish she could see the difference in when she had her own identity to what she has become. Her bright smile faded into a suspicion of dark gloom. Her book knowledge became a suspicion of where is he and what is he doing. Her bright future is turning into a dim dark mirror of his future. At first he seem to be an okay guy. Meet the family and would come around. Once the destructiveness of the relationship became apparent my god daughter was of a age of I own my life even though I don't know the consequences. This is where the grandmother gets worse. She would say she is backing the parents yet all of her actions have showed other wise. The grandmother has literally tied the hands of the parents by enabling all my god daughters actions; and not demanding the things that her parents demand of her of her own grandchild.

When I was a child I was made to respect my elders. Growing up I worked hard to get the things I wanted. But most of all respect for myself was one of the most important things my parents and grandparents ever taught me. In the sad state of the world today we have to put a foot down and bring back the old ways and make it a community thing of raising children. Not Hindering the parents who do what they know is right for their children. Lead by example and get our children back.

For some it is to late to change their attitudes and teachings; yet for the ones that are not protect them. To my best friends I'm sorry for your loss cause I know the pains you went through trying to save that child. Just know that you have more to protect from this world and I can tell this will be the only one to get away.